About Me

“I think you need to leave Facebook. It's killing you."

The words my wife had said to me during a couple's therapy session were devastating. She was right. And yet I was terrified about the prospect of leaving a role I spent the last 3.5 years pouring all my energy into. My entire identity had become synonymous with my role as "Manager of User Research" on the team responsible for all the features related to posting on Facebook.

On paper, I was the paragon of success. I was a rising leader at one of the most sought after employers in the world. My team was shaping the experience of 2 billion people daily. I was helping grow the careers of talented researchers, and sharing my social psychology knowledge with people across multiple disciplines.

However, internally there was another story.

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Every morning I would leave the house at 6:30am and return around 7:00pm. I would often respond to messages and emails up until bedtime, cutting off good conversations with my wife to attend to work matters. Not only was I completely out of balance, but I was doing it for all the wrong reasons. I was caught up in chasing an "exceeds expectations" performance rating every six months (which impacted my salary and bonus), and I was constantly looking for opportunities to prove I was worthy of a promotion. I was burned out, but Facebook was, in my mind, the apex of my career. There was no going up from there. And what would everyone think of me if I left?

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Like many people, I spent most of my life seeking ways to fit in, be accepted, and be successful in all the traditional senses (prestigious career, wealth, relationships). 

I had a desperate need to prove my worth to others, and to not stand out. 

I also had serious “Imposter Syndrome”. “Imposter Syndrome” is where you feel like a fraud and that at any moment you could be caught out. You think thoughts like, “Someone is going to find out that I shouldn’t have been hired,” or “someone is going to find out that I’m not as smart as they thought I was.”

Here’s the funny thing about “Imposter Syndrome”: I know I’m smart, capable and a hard worker. I have a PhD and moved fairly quickly up the corporate ladder at Facebook and Microsoft. Still, those imposter thoughts - and resulting feeling - repeated for me. 

So I worked harder and I achieved more - but none of it lit me up. I knew that I wanted to make an impact on the world, but following the path I was on was not it.

The day I left Facebook and the same day just one year later.

The day I left Facebook and the same day just one year later.

In September of 2017, I left Facebook.

I started a journey that ultimately led me to launch my next act - my business.

I hired a coach. I committed to living fearlessly and dreaming bigger than I had ever before. I committed to following my inner compass, no matter how immensely uncomfortable that feels at times. And I started to take holistic approach to myself personally and professionally - getting out of my head and into my heart and spirit more.

Coaching was a life-changing experience for me. I created a vision for myself and my business that is deeply aligned with my values and passions. I learned strategies and skillsets for making my dreams a tangible reality. I shifted mindsets, cleared limiting beliefs, and learned to master my emotions and my energy.

Today, my heart is on fire. And what lights me up is helping other people turn their big dreams into reality.

I know that if this is possible for me, it is possible for you.

Some other tidbits about me

  • I identify as non-binary gender - I do not fit into the traditional definition of female, but I do not want to be male either. In essence, I live between genders. To read more about my journey, click here. Though not the main focus of my business, I have a passion for working with individuals and organizations on all things gender and sexuality. If you are interested in learning more, please contact me here to set up a time to talk.

  • I went to the University of Michigan for my BA and am a rabid follower of their football and basketball teams. I own a ridiculous amount of UofM sports apparel and am constantly adding more to my collection.

  • I serve as the social media expert on the governing board of WiRED International, a non-profit that brings free, vital medical and health education to underserved communities around the world.

  • When I'm not working, I can be found on a golf course, hiking in the woods, or rocking out on one of my electric or acoustic guitars. On a good golf day, I can shoot in the 80s for 18 holes. On a bad day, I find myself "hiking in the woods" searching for lots of lost balls!

  • My wife and I have two animals - a small beagle mix and a tabby cat. The cat's favorite activity is to bat rubber hair ties around the house; though he tends to lose them under kitchen appliances. I once pulled out 75 formerly lost hair ties in a single sitting from under our refridgerator!

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